On Making Lists

My wife loves to make lists, me not so much, but I can get into it when it is important (such as when she wants to make one). I have to post them conspicuously so I reread them to remember them. She’s better at it than am I (both the making and remembering, but I do try). Well, here’s one of the lists we made together. She crafted the categories, numbered subheadings, etc., all I did was minor editorial work and added the verses. To G0d be the glory!

Norms
1. Remember that we love each other. Ephesians 4:2-3
2. Listen respectfully when the other is speaking. Luke 11:28
3. Provide opportunity for the other person to speak. Proverbs 15:23
4. Choose to be solution oriented. Proverbs 3:6
5. Acknowledge Adonai as the ruler of the Universe and also our home. Joshua 24:15
…..5A. Acknowledge the plain meaning of scripture. 2 Timothy 3:16-17
6. Take time to relax together, unwind, date night. Ecclesiastes 11:10
…..6A. Sex 1 Corinthians 7:5
…..6B. Personal time Matthew 6:6
7. Honor your vows, do not make rash promises. Ecclesiastes 5:4

Barriers and Concerns
1. Scheduled time for each other – body clock, needs to take into consideration for staying late at work. Ecclesiastes 3:7
2. At times the articulation of situations is difficult because it may be stated in a way that is not received well by the other person. Proverbs 25:11
3. Express needs e.g. feeling in a timely manner; Ask “What do you mean by that?” Ephesians 4:26
4. Wife is feeling pressures regarding personal health – hormone levels & allergies, family – son – social relationships, daughter – personal choices with time usage, and husband – work and other. 1 Peter 5:7
5. Ramon needs to focus and listen for meaning in silence. James 1:26, Ecclesiastes 3:7

Potential Solutions
1. Prioritize/Honor scheduled times, whenever possible. If not possible, reschedule for next immediate day. Colossians 4:5
2. Articulate the feeling in difficult situations in a way that is received well by the other person. Ephesians 4:29
3. Never assume understanding, ask for clarification before action. James 4:1

Goals and Opportunities
1. Honor scheduled times. 2 Timothy 2:15
2. Articulate feelings in a kind and timely manner. Proverbs 16:24

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