Muslims say Yeshua is not, nor claimed to be G0D.

Dr. Ramón Argila deTorres y Sandoval

February 27, 2026

The narrative integrity IS the argument.

John 9 is remarkably constructed that way. Walk through the chain:

Yeshua makes mud — deliberate, unhurried, purposeful act on a man born blind, not a laying on of hands or a command to see.

Sends him to wash at Siloam — obedience required before the miracle completes. Faith as participation.

Man returns seeing — verifiable, public, undeniable. Not a subjective experience but a physical observable fact that the entire community could and did examine.

Neighbors question — is this the same man? The miracle is so complete they can’t reconcile the before and after.

Pharisees interrogate — multiple times, increasingly hostile. They can’t disprove the miracle so they attack the mechanism and the timing — done on Sabbath therefore invalid.

Parents questioned — terrified, deflect back to the son. Fear of excommunication is documented and real.

Man interrogated again — and here he grows. First he says the man called Jesus healed him. Then Jesus is a prophet. Then a man from God. The progression of his understanding tracks with each confrontation.

Cast out of the synagogue:

He pays a real social and religious cost for his testimony. He found something real. And they cannot do more than rise to authoritarian condemnation, denigration, and then excommunication from the central cultural pillar of their day. The Synagogue.

The man starts the interrogations as a passive subject being examined. By the end he’s cross examining the Pharisees. The progression isn’t just theological — it’s psychological and rhetorical. Each confrontation where they try to break his testimony instead sharpens it.

And then he turns it on them with devastating logic — “Since the world began it has never been heard that anyone opened the eyes of one born blind (Isaiah 61:1 Breton LXX, Isaiah 42:7). If this man were not from God he could do nothing.” [See Note 2]

That’s not a frightened beggar. That’s a man who has reasoned his way to a conclusion and is now presenting the argument back to the most formidable religious authorities of his world with complete composure.

Then the moment that stops you cold when you really read it.

He’s been dragged in twice. Interrogated. Parents questioned. Social destruction imminent. The most powerful religious authorities in his world bearing down on him with everything they have.

And he asks them if they want to become disciples too.

The audacity is breathtaking. But it’s not reckless audacity — it’s the audacity of someone who has reasoned his way to a position so solid that he can afford to be generous with it. He’s not taunting them. He’s genuinely extending the invitation. Which makes it simultaneously more devastating and more gracious than a taunt would be.

The Pharisees hear it as mockery because their pride interprets everything through that lens. But read straight, it’s actually sincere. He found something real. It cost him everything to say so publicly. And his response to the people trying to destroy him for it is — do you want this too?

That’s not a broken man defending himself. That’s a man so completely transformed and certain that he can offer the thing that’s destroying his social world to the very people destroying it.

The Pharisees had no category for that response. It’s why they immediately resort to the ancestry attack — “you were born in sin.” It is why they excommunicate him. They have nothing else left.

He walked into that interrogation a beggar and left having offered the Pharisees salvation.

John knew exactly what he was doing with every single word.

The excommunication is the bluster made institutional. The argument failed so the authority is invoked instead. Which is itself an admission of defeat dressed as power.

And the excommunication reveals everything about who actually had power in that room.

The man with nothing — no social standing, no education, no religious authority, a beggar born blind whose own parents were too frightened to stand with him — had something they couldn’t take, couldn’t refute, couldn’t explain away.

So they took the only thing they could take. His place in the community. His religious standing. His social identity. Everything a first century Jew’s life was structured around.

And it didn’t work.

It failed because what he had wasn’t stored in the synagogue. It wasn’t dependent on their approval or their institutional validation. He saw. That was simply true regardless of what they declared about him.

The excommunication was meant to be the ultimate cost. The thing that would make others watching calculate that the price of agreement with this man was too high. It’s always about the observers as much as the target. Make the cost visible. Make it public. Discourage the next person from following the logic where it leads.

Instead it became the proof. The institution deploying its maximum weapon against a formerly blind beggar because he asked a question they couldn’t answer — that’s not authority demonstrating strength.

That’s authority revealing its own bankruptcy.

Yeshua finding him immediately after

After the full cost was paid — completing the revelation is the response to every institution that has ever used excommunication as a weapon against truth.

You paid the cost. Here is what you paid it for.

He walked in blind and walked out seeing in every sense. Physical sight, theological clarity, rhetorical courage.

And Yeshua finding him afterward — after he paid the full cost — and completing the revelation is the final link.

John knew exactly what he was building. Every word load bearing.

Yeshua accepted worship as the Son of Man. Divine.

Yeshua finds him — deliberately seeks him out after the excommunication.

Reveals himself as Son of Man — the man asks who that is so he can believe.

Man worships — and Yeshua accepts. Worship reserved for the divine. For G0D. [See Note 1]

Every single link load bearing. Every one necessary. Remove the Pharisee interrogations and the worship costs nothing. Remove the parents’ fear and the social stakes disappear. Remove the progressive growth in the man’s understanding and the worship seems uninformed.

John constructed a legal argument dressed as a narrative. The whole chapter is a courtroom with the man born blind as the most reliable witness — he has everything to lose and testifies anyway.

That’s not accidental writing. That’s precise theological architecture.

Then the man said, “Lord, I believe,” and he worshiped him. John 9:38

NOTES

1. “In my vision at night I looked, and there before me was one like a Son of Man,[a] coming with the clouds of heaven. He approached the Ancient of Days and was led into his presence. He was given authority, glory and sovereign power; all nations and peoples of every language worshiped him. His dominion is an everlasting dominion that will not pass away, and his kingdom is one that will never be destroyed. Daniel 7:13-14

2. Isaiah 61:1 LXX — recovery of sight to the blind is explicitly listed as a messianic marker. What Yeshua read in the synagogue in Luke 4 and said “today this is fulfilled in your hearing.” He had already publicly claimed that text as his own mission statement.

And Isaiah 42:7 — opening eyes that are blind, bringing out prisoners from the dungeon. The Servant passage. The one every informed Jew recognized as messianic. So when a man born blind — not dimmed sight, not cataracts, BORN blind, which the text is careful to establish — walks into Jerusalem seeing, the Pharisees aren’t just dealing with a Sabbath technicality. They’re standing in front of a fulfilled messianic prophecy in human form.

That’s why the interrogations are so frantic and layered. That’s why they keep bringing him back. That’s why they go after the parents. They’re not just annoyed about the Sabbath — they’re trying to find the flaw in something that if accepted has enormous implications about who Yeshua is. The man born blind isn’t just an inconvenient miracle. He’s Isaiah 42:7 walking around Jerusalem answering questions. No wonder they panicked. The receipts were standing right in front of them on two legs asking if they wanted to become disciples too.

DJT’s NY hoax trial.

Dr. Ramón Argila deTorres y Sandoval

February 25, 2026

When DJT was tried and convicted NY law required that there be an underlying crime to elevate misdemeanors to felony level for a crime to be charged. Why was the underlying crime never prosecuted?

This is the question that collapses the entire prosecution’s legitimacy in one sentence.

The legal architecture required:

Step one — underlying crime exists

Step two — misdemeanor connected to underlying crime

Step three — misdemeanor elevated to felony

The underlying crime was allegedly: Federal election law violation

Which required: Federal jurisdiction to prosecute Federal authority to validate Federal court to adjudicate

None of which Bragg had. In fact he had no authority to prosecute Federal crimes as a state DA.

The specific answer:

The underlying alleged federal election law violation was reviewed by:

The Federal Election Commission: Specifically tasked with enforcing federal election law Reviewed the Michael Cohen hush money payment situation Declined to pursue charges Found insufficient basis for federal election law violation.

The Southern District of New York — Federal Prosecutors: Specifically tasked with federal criminal prosecution in Manhattan Reviewed the same conduct Declined to prosecute Trump Did prosecute Michael Cohen — for tax evasion and other charges Notably did NOT charge Cohen with federal election law violations related to the hush money.

The Department of Justice under both administrations: Reviewed the underlying conduct Declined to bring federal charges against Trump For the same conduct Bragg later used as his felony predicate.

What that declination means legally:

Three separate federal authorities with actual jurisdiction over the alleged federal crime:

• Reviewed it
• Had full investigative resources
• Had actual legal authority to prosecute
• Declined to prosecute
• Found it insufficient for federal charges

Bragg then: Takes the declined federal predicate, uses it as the elevating element for state felony charges without federal jurisdiction, without federal authority’s validation, without any prior court establishing this theory, against an expired misdemeanor statute of limitations.

The logical construction is breathtaking:

The crime that makes it a felony — wasn’t prosecuted by people whose job it was to prosecute it.

The crime it elevates — had its statute of limitations expire.

The theory connecting them — had never been used in any American court.

Under a one witness standard:

The federal election violation predicate has zero corroborating independent authority supporting it as a crime.

In fact it has the opposite: Three independent authorities specifically declining to find it criminal.

That’s not absence of the second witness.

That’s three witnesses testifying it wasn’t a crime.

The most precise legal statement of the problem:

Bragg essentially argued: “These federal authorities were wrong not to prosecute. I know better than the FEC what constitutes a federal election violation. I know better than the SDNY what constitutes federal criminal conduct. I know better than the DOJ what merits federal prosecution. And I’ll use their declined federal theory as the predicate for my (expired) state felony charges.”

A state DA claiming superior knowledge of federal law to: The Federal Election Commission The Southern District of New York The Department of Justice is either: The most brilliant legal mind in American history who identified what three federal agencies missed

Or:

A prosecutor who ran on a promise to convict a specific person and found the only available theory however thin, however novel, however previously declined by actual federal authorities.

The answer is not difficult: The Cohen prosecution is the most damning specific detail:

Federal prosecutors charged Michael Cohen. Cohen was the direct participant in the hush money payment. If the payment constituted a federal election law violation — Cohen committed it directly and personally. Federal prosecutors charged him. With multiple crimes, AND DID NOT charge him with federal election law violations related to hush money.

The people who prosecuted the actual participant, in the actual transaction. With full knowledge of all facts: Did not consider it a federal election law violation worth charging.

Bragg then used that uncharged federal theory — Rejected by the prosecutors of the actual participant — As the predicate for elevating Trump’s misdemeanor to a felony.

Under any coherent legal standard:

If the conduct wasn’t a federal election violation when committed by the direct participant — It cannot be a federal election violation when attributed to the person who was alleged to have directed it.

The legal logic runs only one direction:

If Cohen’s direct participation didn’t constitute a chargeable federal election violation — Trump’s alleged direction of it cannot constitute a federal election violation either.

The predicate crime doesn’t exist. The felony elevation evaporates. The expired misdemeanor statute of limitations applies. The case legally cannot proceed.

And yet it did.

Because:

The venue was Manhattan The jury pool was 87% against the defendant The jurors intelligent enough to most likely to not go along were removed and the novel theory was presented to selected jurors who wouldn’t know to question Bragg’s tactics. The judge managed the proceedings in documented ways favoring prosecution. The conviction followed.

The underlying crime was never charged because:

It wasn’t actually a crime recognized by the authorities whose job it was to recognize it.

It became a “crime” only when: A specific prosecutor needed a predicate for a specific target, In a specific venue, with a specific jury pool selected through a specific voir dire process that removed people: the people most likely to either understand the process, or who would ask the wrong questions, or who were philosophically opposed to convictions without witnesses.

The case critics make — articulated:

The prosecution was novel in several ways. The underlying felony theory (elevating falsified business records to a felony by linking them to federal election law violations) had never been used in quite this combination before. Alvin Bragg had campaigned partly on GET Trump. The venue — Manhattan — produced a jury pool that was statistically unlikely to be favorable to a Republican defendant. And voir dire, as noted, excluded certain juror profiles; the jurors too smart to not question the case, to knowledgeable about the process.

The question is the entire case in one sentence.

Why was the underlying crime never prosecuted or charged?

Because it wasn’t a crime.

Until power needed it to be.

Andrey Vyshinsky, “Give me the man and I will give you the case against him” and Alvin Bragg followed that dictum to the letter. [See Note]

In a Manhattan courtroom.

With air conditioning.

Note:

Andrey Vyshinsky (1883–1954) was a Soviet jurist and diplomat, infamous as the chief prosecutor during Stalin’s Great Purge show trials of the 1930s, and later served as Soviet Foreign Minister and UN representative. Most often said to have opined “Show me the man and I’ll show you the crime”a Soviet prosecutorial doctrine that guilt was predetermined and evidence would be found to fit the accused, not the other way around.

A Book Review

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

February, 22, 2026

Judith Wallerstein’s work — “The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce” — is a solidly written, meticulously crafted book about a 25 year long longitudinal study on the children of divorce, which concluded in part, children need TWO solid parents welded together at the hip and soul: A genuinely groundbreaking and deeply uncomfortable come to Jesus moment for a culture that had largely convinced itself that amicable divorce was essentially harmless to children if handled properly.

A hard won insight and an important one

Many people put their children before their marriage without understanding had they put their marriage first the children would have had a stronger team advocating for them.

The paradox is that putting the children first — which sounds noble and selfless — can actually undermine the very foundation the children need most. The marriage is the load bearing wall. Weaken it trying to serve everything else and eventually the structure becomes unstable for everyone including the children.

A strong marriage is not a competition with good parenting — it IS good parenting. Children who watch two people genuinely respect, love, prioritize and forgive each other are receiving something more valuable than any individual sacrifice made on their behalf. They’re seeing what love actually looks like as a daily practice. They’re learning what to look for and what to build themselves one day.

The Children

The children of a strong marriage have two advocates who are also each other’s advocates. United, rested, secure in each other. That team can weather almost anything on behalf of the children.

The children of a marriage depleted by being perpetually third priority get two exhausted, disconnected people doing their individual best — which is genuinely never quite as good as the team at full strength.

It took most of human history and a lot of painful marriage counseling research to articulate what most traditional wisdom already knew intuitively — that the covenant between husband and wife is the foundation, not the obstacle.

The Book, The Findings

Wallerstein’s findings were striking precisely because she followed the children into adulthood. The damage wasn’t always immediately visible in childhood — some children appeared to cope reasonably well in the short term. But it surfaced powerfully when those children reached adulthood and tried to form their own relationships and families. The template was damaged in ways that took decades to fully manifest.

The phrase — welded together at the hip and soul — captures something the sanitized therapeutic language around divorce tends to carefully avoid saying. Children don’t need two good individual parents who cooperate respectfully across separate households. They need the lived daily experience of two people choosing each other consistently, navigating conflict and coming back together, demonstrating that love is durable and trustworthy.

That demonstration is what teaches children that their own future relationships can be safe.

Without it they often spend decades either avoiding deep commitment or struggling to trust its permanence when they find it.

Wallerstein

She took enormous professional heat for publishing it. The divorce culture was well entrenched by the time her longitudinal data came back and nobody particularly wanted to hear what twenty five years of following real children into real adulthood had revealed.

The ideological resistance was fierce — she was accused of being regressive, of promoting staying in abusive situations, of shaming single parents. The usual methods of discrediting inconvenient data by attacking the messenger and expanding the argument to its most extreme implication rather than engaging the actual findings.

Data is what it is

What made it particularly hard to dismiss was the longitudinal methodology. This wasn’t a snapshot or a survey. It was the same human beings followed across decades. The causality was harder to wave away.

Twenty five years builds a mountain of data, but the data was the data. You can’t argue with children grown into struggling adults who can trace the specific shape of their difficulties back to a specific rupture in their foundation.

Willful Ignorance and the Profit Motive

The cultural conversation largely waved it away anyway. Divorce rates didn’t meaningfully change. The therapeutic language of amicable separation and cooperative co-parenting continued to paper over what Wallerstein’s subjects were actually experiencing.

And underneath it is about them. Or rather Me. Me. Me. The selfish generation. The lawyers who make money on divorce, the divorce courts who strip a man (or a woman) of dignity and the shirt on their back and for whom more divorces means more cases, means more money for the divorce industry. Everyone profits except the abandoned spouse and the children; a systemic analysis that rarely gets stated that plainly but is largely accurate.

A generation of children paid the price for the culture’s preference for comfortable conclusions over uncomfortable data.

The observation — had the marriage been the priority the children would have had a stronger team — is essentially Wallerstein’s core finding compressed into one sentence.

Many people reach this conclusion through lived experience. Wallerstein arrived at it through twenty five years of following the evidence.

Same destination.

Ignore the victims

And (once more) the arguments against Wallerstein ignored the victims of divorce, the adults and more importantly the future, the children. Just as people who say the murder rate is down, we win, ignores that it isn’t zero and there are still victims; a precise and devastating logical point.

The statistical comfort of “the rate is down” is a way of making the remaining victims invisible. It converts individual human suffering into an acceptable percentage. The murder rate being down is genuinely good news — and simultaneously meaningless to the family of the person who was murdered this year. Both things are true and the second one doesn’t get canceled by the first.

Wallerstein’s critics did exactly the same thing. They argued at the population and trend level — divorce is more accepted, single parents can thrive, children are resilient — while the actual children in her study were sitting across from her describing their specific, concrete, ongoing difficulties with intimacy, trust and commitment.

You can’t aggregate away an individual. The child of divorce who struggles to trust a spouse thirty years later is not comforted by the statistic that many children of divorce turned out fine. They are the ones who didn’t. They exist. They matter.

Intellectual Cowardice

Retreating to the population level (where the individual is a statistical blip), and yet whenever the individual rises from the statistics, or becomes too uncomfortable, or too indicting of choices the culture has already made collectively and doesn’t want to revisit, they attack. It’s a form of intellectual cowardice disguised as sophisticated statistical thinking

The same mechanism operates across almost every contentious social policy debate. Find the favorable aggregate, cite it loudly, and the inconvenient individuals (victims) huddled inside that statistic become invisible.

Wallerstein refused to let them be invisible.

Which is probably exactly why she made so many people so uncomfortable.

Follow the Money

Divorce has an entire industrial ecosystem built around it that has a vested financial interest in its continuation and expansion. Lawyers, mediators, court systems, therapists, custody evaluators, guardian ad litems — an entire professional class whose livelihood depends on marital failure. Nobody in that system gets paid when a marriage is saved.

The no fault divorce revolution — which was sold as compassionate and liberating — also conveniently removed most of the legal friction that made divorce costly and difficult. Which sounds humane until you notice who benefited most from the friction being removed. Not the children certainly. Not the abandoned spouse. The people who processed the paperwork.

And the me me me observation cuts to the anthropological root of it. The entire therapeutic culture that exploded alongside the divorce revolution was built around self actualization, personal fulfillment, following your authentic truth. All of which are ways of encoding selfishness in language that sounds enlightened.

The Real Counter Culture

The marriage vow is structurally counter-cultural to that worldview. It is explicitly and intentionally a subordination of me to us. Which is why a culture marinated in self fulfillment philosophy has such difficulty sustaining marriages — the vow and the worldview are fundamentally incompatible.

And the children are the honest ledger. They record what the me me me philosophy actually costs when you follow it to its conclusion. Wallerstein just read the ledger out loud.

And more importantly; Wallerstein figured out that those who waited 5 years and didn’t divorce, even if they didn’t go to any counseling, secular or religious, who just toughed it out were far happier than those who gave up. This was in addition to those who used counseling of course, yet, those 5 years were time to heal, time to repair, time to become happy again.

This finding was particularly explosive because it directly challenged the therapeutic culture’s assumption that staying in an unhappy marriage was inherently harmful and that liberation through divorce would restore happiness and well being. It didn’t, for the partners, but especially for their children.

The Data is the Data

The data said something far more inconvenient. That the unhappiness driving most divorces was frequently not marriage specific. It traveled with the person. The problems that felt like marriage problems turned out in many cases to be life problems, personal problems, unresolved internal problems that the divorce didn’t resolve — it just changed the scenery surrounding them.

And the people who toughed it out — not through counseling necessarily, just through commitment and time and the sheer refusal to quit — frequently found that the unhappy marriage transformed into something genuinely good. The rough patch was a rough patch, not a terminal diagnosis. And in sticking it out, they found true happiness. They were the real counter culture.

The traveling distress then found its way into the hearts and minds of the children of divorce, who had trouble learning to trust, learning to be. Their “emotional baggage” followed them into their marriage.

A Strong Weld Makes Two Into One.

Which reframes the entire calculus. If a significant proportion of people who divorced would have found happiness by staying, and a significant proportion of people who stayed found happiness by toughing it out — then that means the divorce culture thrived by harvesting people at their lowest point and calling it liberation. Selling them the exit when what they actually needed was time.

The five year figure is striking because it suggests the rough patches have a natural duration that most people underestimate. Commitment is partly just — outlasting the difficulty.

The welding process takes heat and pressure before it holds; two become one.

Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Four a.m. fun.

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

February 22, 2026

The perfect little domestic standoff joke.

A guy shows up at work with a shiner, and when his buddy asks what happened, he deadpans:

“My wife poked me in the eye.”“

“Why?!”

“We were arguing about who has to get up at 4 a.m. to milk the cow.”

“But… you don’t even own a cow.”

“Exactly. Neither of us wanted to get up at 4 a.m.”

It’s such a clean, escalating punchline—starts with a fight, goes to the absurd cow-milking duty, and lands on the real issue: nobody wants to lose the argument, even over something that doesn’t exist. Pure stubbornness comedy.

Who Milks the Cow

Arguments over (and related to) abiogenesis are just arguing over who milks the cow; but you can’t have a cow without getting up to milk it (assuming a milk cow). And you can’t have the post cow process, a dairy industry, without a cow. No cheese, no milk, no yogurt, no meat, no leather, no cow related industry at all without a cow.

You can’t have life without an origin, and without an origin you can’t have the process, evolution (differentiation, adaptation, speciation) without first having replicating life. You can’t have replicating life without first having an origin of that life (abiogenesis or something equivalent).

The entire argument over mechanisms, rates, and timelines for evolution becomes a sideshow if the cow never existed in the first place—or if no one ever got up to milk her. Arguing about whose turn it is to milk at 4 a.m. when there is no cow is the very definition of much ado about nothing.

Life is 50/50

And the racemate/chirality problem is one of the clearest reasons why the cow may never have been born naturally: the prebiotic chemistry produces an approximate 50/50 mix (maximum chemical noise), but the cow (life) requires 99.9+% homochirality (ultra-low entropy, high specified information) across multiple interdependent molecular classes simultaneously.

No known natural process reliably achieves that transition without already having a chiral bias or external specification. So when mainstream voices say “evolution doesn’t depend on abiogenesis,” it’s like saying “the milk industry doesn’t depend on owning cows—we can just talk about pasteurization and distribution.” Which ignores the question of the cow.

The racemate problem (and the broader abiogenesis barriers) isn’t a side issue—it’s the absence of the cow in the barn at 4 a.m. Arguing about milking schedules, pasteurization techniques, or which breed produces the best cheese becomes absurd when there’s no animal to milk in the first place.

An IT lens cuts straight through: in any information-processing system, you can’t have error-correcting, self-replicating code (evolution) without first having a bootable kernel (life) compiled from non-code (dead chemicals). A racemic soup is maximum-entropy garbage data—no compiler, no specification, no boot sequence. The “downstream” processes (mutation, selection, differentiation) are moot without that initial boot.

Noise over Signal

Information is a signal over noise: complex, specified, error-correcting information systems (like life) don’t bootstrap themselves from pure noise without a mechanism that injects and preserves information. A racemic soup is maximum Shannon entropy; a minimal self-replicator is extremely low entropy. The gap is not small—it’s astronomical. And every proposed bridge either begs the question (requires pre-existing chirality) or fails to scale to the required fidelity.

Cow gone → no milk → no downstream dairy debate.

No origin of life → no replication → no downstream evolution debate.

It’s all just a lot of noise over a non-existent cow.

The mainstream decoupling (“evolution doesn’t need abiogenesis”) is like saying “the dairy industry doesn’t need cows—we can just talk about supply chains and distribution.” Technically narrow, but completely misses the point. Which leaves, Panspermia, it didn’t happen here, so it must’ve happened somewhere else.

Panspermia is at least more intellectually honest in admitting, “Maybe the cow was airlifted in from another farm.” But even then, someone somewhere had to get up at 4 a.m. to milk her first.

So yes: no cow → no milk → no arguing over milking schedules, dairy, meat or leather. No argument worth having at dawn.

The origin question isn’t peripheral; it’s foundational.

Everything downstream is moo(t) without the origin.

Deuteronomy 7:13: “He will love you and bless you and increase your numbers. He will bless the fruit of your womb, the crops of your land—the calves of your herds and the lambs of your flocks in the land he swore to your ancestors to give you.”

Not a book review

Dr. Ramón Argila deTorres y Sandoval
February 2026

When reading Letters to Jenny, even before I read the epilogue I already knew who Jenny Elf was. She was the severely disabled girl my principal took me out of class to visit at a hospice facility to ask if I wanted to teach her. I said yes. I spent one school year with her, and only when I read Letters to Jenny, did I realize I’d taught Jenny Elf.

Piers Anthony wrote Letters to Jenny because his own Jenny — Jenny Gildwarg* — was severely injured in a car accident and their correspondence sustained her. He turned that correspondence into a book and then turned her into Jenny Elf in Xanth. A character who arrived broken and became essential to Xanth.

That Is Not A Small Thing

A child so severely disabled she required a hospice facility. A young man pulled from teaching his class and asked if he wanted to try, who said yes without knowing what yes meant; it meant spending a year showing up to work and to Jenny.

Since I was a first year probational teacher; bowever, my contract was not renewed. It was only after I moved to a different school the following year, and after reading Letters to Jenny I realized how a fictional character had been built from a real disabled girl — the echo of the girl I had just spent a year teaching.

The Foundation Was Already There

Before the Navy. Before teacher training school. Before all the challenges of life. Before anything else in my career, Jenny was, and then I said yes to something that could be, should be difficult, and showed up for a year. I said yes to grace and truth and Jenny Elf knew it first.

During times I allowed kids to go off task, breaks, etc., or before the official start of class she’d be there surrounded by other students gleefully laughing at something she typed into her Text to Voice translation machine. And when I’d walk over to see, she hit delete.

Of course the joke was on me.

That Is Perfect

A severely disabled girl who had required a hospice facility was there in my class running comedy sets on a text to voice machine and deleting the evidence before the teacher could read it. She was surrounded by children who sought her out during free time not out of obligation or taught tolerance but because she was genuinely the most entertaining person in the room.

That’s not a disabled child being graciously included.

That’s a comedian holding court and protecting her material.

What That Tells You About Her

Her body was catastrophically compromised. Her mind was entirely intact and apparently mischievous in the best possible way. She’d figured out exactly how to work her audience, time her material, and cover her tracks.

That’s sophisticated. That’s joyful. That’s a person fully inhabiting whatever space life left her with and extracting maximum fun from it. That was the personification of Jenny Elf.

What It Tells You About My Classroom

Children don’t naturally cluster around someone during free time unless the someone is genuinely compelling. I had helped create the conditions where she could be seen as exactly who she was — the funny one, the one worth gathering around — rather than the disabled one requiring management.

We (my students and I) gave her an audience and she absolutely worked it.

The Classroom Assignment

Jenny Elf arrived broken in Xanth and became essential to the story. The Jenny I was asked to teach also arrived in a compromised body, yet became the center of gravity in a classroom.

Not only was she was funnier than any of us; she was passionate.

She shook so much that when she drew a picture it was like riding a rodeo machine trying to draw a straight line. Yet in one assignment “draw yourself with someone” she drew the most beautiful picture, squiggly lines and all of her dancing with her boyfriend. I almost cried.

The Dancing and Almost Crying

She drew herself dancing with her boyfriend. Dancing. Not sitting. Not being helped. Not being depicted in her chair or her limitations, but dancing. With her boyfriend. The lines going everywhere they wanted to go and somehow arriving at exactly the right place anyway. There was more life and poetry and physical joy in that drawing than many people see in a hundred drawings.

She didn’t draw what she was. She drew what she felt. What she was inside the body that shook and deleted jokes and held court during breaks.

And the image was beautiful because the truth behind it was beautiful.

What She Taught

I had said yes and went in thinking I was the teacher; only to spend a school year with a girl who ran comedy sets and deleted the evidence and drew herself dancing despite hands that shook with every line.

She was teaching the whole time.

About joy residing completely independent of circumstance. About identity being entirely separable from physical limitation. About drawing yourself dancing when the world sees someone who shakes.

Anthony Knew

Jenny Elf became essential to Xanth not despite arriving broken.

Because of who she was inside it.

The Jenny I taught knew that about herself completely.

She drew the proof.

“The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

ps I had the wrong name. It was a long time ago. Oops.

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

February 20, 2026

There are no UAPs, no UFOs. They cannot be real. No physical craft makes a right angle turn at 1000 kps. The crew would be jello in a blender. And that isn’t just the crew. No metals or plastics would survive.

Now if they were non-corporeal beings no velocity, no turn would harm them, but they cannot be seen. Plasma can be seen. As Chuck Missler, former aerospace and defense industry executive with deep technical credentials before becoming a theologian believed, they are spiritual beings.

He noted that UFOs violate physical laws — tracked at astonishing speeds without sonic booms, not leaving heat trails, making right angle turns at absurd velocities, materializing and de-materializing at will — and that leading experts concluded they are trans-dimensional, not intergalactic as was earlier presumed.

So back to plasma. I propose that they are invisible entities using plasma to inhabit this dimension. If they are spiritual beings encasing themselves in plasma that explains everything about them.

This means they are using plasma to interact with our reality, and as soon as they leave, the plasma just goes back to standard matter. And it explains leaving burn marks and radiation and chemical traces during the excited state. And explains being seen with our tech. Plasma can be seen. As the plasma returns to ordinary matter the instant the intelligence withdraws. Zero debris. Zero residue. Zero recoverable material.

What makes this framework scientifically superior to every competing hypothesis:

The little grey men (LGM) hypothesis requires faster than light travel, biological crew surviving impossible g-forces, and craft that somehow leave zero debris when they crash. Traveling through an incredibly dense irradiated space to come here across light years, just to hide? It fails on multiple simultaneous grounds.

The secret human technology hypothesis requires us to have developed physics capabilities approximately a thousand years beyond our current understanding in complete secrecy. Implausible on its face.

The sensor artifact hypothesis fails because multiple independent sensors on separate platforms record the same phenomena simultaneously. You can’t have coincidental identical artifacts across independent systems.

This framework fails on none of these grounds. It requires only two things — non-corporeal intelligences exist, and they can excite local matter into plasma states. Everything else follows logically and cleanly.

The travel problem alone is insurmountable

The nearest star system Alpha Centauri is 4.37 light years away. At the speed of light — which is physically impossible for matter to achieve — that’s 4.37 years one way. The nearest potentially habitable exoplanet is significantly further. We’re talking civilizations capable of solving faster than light travel, surviving intergalactic radiation exposure, navigating the catastrophic density of debris, dust, and cosmic ray bombardment across light years of space — and they make it literally all the way here and then:

• Crash in Roswell New Mexico
• Hide from farmers in cornfields
• Abduct random rural Americans
• Draw pictures in wheat
• Hover over military bases and then flee
• Apparently have a terrible safety record given the number of alleged crashes

Gas analogy

Traveling through an incredibly dense irradiated space to come here across light years, just to hide? Or doing the same just to have a break down and crash here? That would be like driving from Northern Alaska and all the way to the Tierra del Fuego and minutes from the beach running out of gas.

A civilization that solved faster than light travel forgot to check the fuel gauge. A species that survived crossing irradiated interstellar space gets taken down by Earth’s atmosphere. Technology capable of the most extraordinary feat physically imaginable — breaking the light speed barrier — somehow can’t manage basic structural integrity in Earth’s comparatively negligible gravity and atmosphere.

The hiding behavior is particularly nonsensical

If you crossed light years of space you are by definition incomprehensibly more advanced than everything on this planet. You have nothing to fear. You have nothing to hide from. The idea that a civilization solving faster than light travel is coyly peek-a-booing around Earth’s military installations like a shy tourist makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

But applying a non-corporeal plasma framework and the behavior makes immediate sense

They’re not hiding because they’re afraid. They’re not crashing because they broke down. They’re not traveling light years because they live somewhere else. They’re already HERE. They’ve always been here. They exist in a dimensional layer overlapping our physical reality and manifest selectively and deliberately — appearing and disappearing at will because the plasma construct is generated and dissolved volitionally — not because they’re flying in from somewhere else.

The “where do they come from” question that drives the entire extraterrestrial hypothesis is actually a category error. It assumes they’re physical beings operating in our dimensional framework who must therefore have a physical point of origin reachable by physical travel.

But if they’re trans-dimensional non-corporeal intelligences — they don’t come FROM anywhere in our physical reality. They intersect WITH it. Selectively. Deliberately. For purposes that Ephesians 6:12 and 2 Corinthians 11:14 described with uncomfortable precision two thousand years before we had radar to detect the plasma manifestations. And always one step ahead.

Think about it

When we walked or rode animals, they flew in the skies. When we had chariots, they had flying chariots. When we had airships – they had better airships. When we had jets – they had Foo fighters that outperformed jets. Now that we have advanced supersonic (and hypersonic) aerospace vehicles, they have UAPs that violate the laws of physics but are still recognizable as craft.

They always appear to be one generation ahead. Not a thousand generations ahead. One. That’s not what genuine alien superiority looks like. That’s mimicry. Their appearance (LGM) and presentation is calibrated to human perception and understanding at any given moment. But an intelligence whose actual goal is psychological – deception, awe, manipulation of human perception and belief – would calibrate very carefully. It would present exactly enough technological superiority to inspire awe without being so incomprehensible as to lose the audience entirely.

If they were genuinely from another star system with technology millennia beyond ours, their craft would be so incomprehensibly advanced that we would have zero frame of reference for it. We couldn’t even perceive it as technology. It would look like magic or God – not like a slightly better version of whatever we just invented.

That’s not engineering. That’s theater. Sophisticated, millennia-long theater with a very specific intended effect on human consciousness.

What the LGM hypothesis requires us to believe:

A civilization advanced enough to solve faster than light travel is simultaneously incompetent enough to crash repeatedly, shy enough to hide from subsistence farmers, hover over military bases with the ability to shut off missiles, yet disappears when a guard armed with a combustion weapon spots them, who is interested enough in Earth to cross light years but uninterested enough to never make formal contact, and physically robust enough to survive interstellar radiation but fragile enough to die in a New Mexico desert.

Every single element is internally contradictory. The hypothesis collapses under its own logical weight the moment you actually examine it carefully.

The plasma framework has zero such contradictions. Every observation fits. Every physical anomaly is explained. Every behavioral pattern makes sense. And a two thousand year old verse described the core mechanism with physical accuracy that plasma physics only caught up to in the last century.

This picture is remarkably complete and coherent assembled today entirely from first principles.

The Missler convergence:

An aerospace and defense executive turned theologian arriving from Scripture and hard physics. And then the plasma emanating being derived from pure logical reasoning about g-forces and debris fields. Both land on the same model independently. This is a bidirectional convergence — top down from theology, bottom up from physics — pointing at the same framework is genuinely remarkable.

The most honest summary of where this leaves us:

There is something real. It isn’t physical craft. It isn’t extraterrestrial biology. It isn’t human technology, yet, what if it is, spiritual beings sharing tech were aren’t ready for isn’t new (1). The observed behavior is most parsimoniously explained by non-corporeal intelligences using plasma as a temporary physical interface layer — arriving with nothing, using local matter, leaving with nothing, returning that matter to its base state on withdrawal.

Whether you call them spiritual beings, trans-dimensional entities, or something else entirely — the physics description of what they’re doing is essentially identical across all framings.

2 Corinthians 11:14 “And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light”?

This connection is theologically and physically profound and it’s been sitting in plain sight in that verse for two thousand years.

Paul wasn’t speaking metaphorically about personality or charm. He was describing an observable phenomenon. Satan presents as LIGHT. And what is plasma? Ionized matter that emits light. The very substance, plasma, is the logical interface mechanism between non-corporeal reality and our physical dimension — is light emitting by its fundamental nature.

The deception architecture is elegant and complete:

Non-corporeal malevolent intelligence — invisible by nature — manifests as plasma — which is literally luminous — and presents to human observers as something magnificent, technologically awesome, or even divine. The reaction of virtually every UAP witness includes awe. Overwhelming awe. Not fear initially — awe. That’s a consistent and documented pattern of deception across thousands of accounts across centuries. Which is exactly the response “angel of light” is designed to produce. It grooms human beings to believe a lie.

This is precisely what scripture foretold 2000 years ago. “For this reason God sends them a strong delusion so that they will believe what is false” 2 Thessalonians 2:11

The actual Greek text:

αὐτὸς γὰρ ὁ Σατανᾶς μετασχηματίζεται εἰς ἄγγελον φωτός

Breaking down the critical words – For Satan Himself Masquerades as an Angel of Light:

φωτός (phōtos) — this is the genitive form of φῶς (phōs). And Strong’s defines it with remarkable physical precision: from an obsolete word meaning “to shine or make manifest especially by rays” — luminousness in the widest application, natural or artificial, abstract or concrete, literal or figurative — fire, light.

So Paul didn’t use a metaphorical word. He used the Greek word for literal, physical, luminous light. The same word used for sunlight, lamplight, and fire.

μετασχηματίζεται (metaschēmatizetai) — this is equally striking. It means to transform, transfigure, or change the outward form. It’s an active present tense — meaning Satan IS DOING THIS. Continuously. Not did it once. Does it. Satan can literally appear as an angel, or as a UAP, as can all spiritual beings he commands.

The lexical commentary makes the plasma connection even more precise:

A heavenly light such as surrounds angels when they appear on earth — hence ἄγγελος φωτός, 2 Corinthians 11:14 — and illumines the place where they appear.

So the established theological understanding from the Greek itself is that when angels — good or fallen — physically manifest in our dimension, they are SURROUNDED BY LITERAL LUMINOUS LIGHT. That’s not metaphor. That’s the consistent Biblical description of how non-corporeal beings interface with physical reality.

The is discovery is staggering in its precision:

Paul writing in Greek around 55 AD described Satan as continuously transforming himself — metaschēmatizetai, active present tense, ongoing — into a being surrounded by literal physical luminous light — phōtos, actual rays, actual luminosity.

Plasma is ionized matter that emits literal physical luminous light by its fundamental nature.

The Greek says literal light. Plasma IS literal light emitting matter. Paul wasn’t being poetic. He was being physically descriptive in the most precise language available to him in the first century. He just didn’t have the word plasma. He used the most accurate word he had — phōtos. Light. Rays. Luminosity.

Not a coincidence in language

Paul was a highly educated man, trained under Gamaliel, writing sophisticated theological Greek. He wasn’t a simple fisherman reaching for the first word available. His word choices throughout his epistles are consistently precise and deliberate. The φωτός selection fits his character as a writer. He meant physical light because he wrote physical light.

If Paul had used:

• δόξα (doxa) — glory, radiance in an abstract or divine sense — you could argue metaphor
• λαμπρότης (lamprotēs) — brightness, but with a more abstract luminous quality
• φέγγος (phengos) — radiance, but more diffuse and less physically concrete
• αἴγλη (aiglē) — splendor, brilliance — again more abstract

Any of those and the plasma connection becomes a stretch. A reach. Coincidence becomes much more comfortable. But he used φωτός. The most physically concrete luminosity word available in Koine Greek…That specificity is what makes the coincidence argument genuinely uncomfortable. A metaphorical word leaves an exit. φωτός doesn’t really offer one.

Two thousand years later plasma physics caught up to what the Greek text already said.

And the deception operates on multiple levels simultaneously:

To the secular observer — it’s advanced alien technology confirming we aren’t special, aren’t created, aren’t the focus of any divine attention. Deeply demoralizing to faith.

To the spiritually curious observer — it presents as something magnificent and possibly divine, drawing worship or veneration toward exactly the wrong object.

To the scientific community — it presents as a physical phenomenon demanding materialist explanation, keeping the conversation permanently in the physical domain away from the spiritual one.

Three completely different deceptions tailored to three completely different audiences from the same phenomenon. That’s not accidental. That’s a highly sophisticated intelligence that has been studying human psychology for millennia.

And here’s what’s most striking about this observation

The verse is two thousand years old. Plasma physics is roughly 100 years old. The systematic military documentation of UAP phenomena is maybe 80 years old. Yet the single verse — “angel of light” — described the mechanism with physical precision millennia before we had the science to understand what it was describing.

That’s either the most remarkable coincidence in intellectual history or it’s exactly what it claims to be — revelation from something that already knew what we’d eventually discover about the nature of light, matter and non-corporeal intelligence.

“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us.” Ephesians 3:20.

1. The Watchers described in The Book of Enoch descended to Earth and taught humanity advanced technologies: Metallurgy, pigments, construction skills, and even astronomy. These technologies were not discovered by humans but were “injected” into humanity, designed to bring about moral and spiritual corruption and judgment. These weren’t just mythical tales but were indeed part of a prophetic warning about the moral and spiritual climate of the end times. https://mycharisma.com/culture/from-enoch-to-ufos-recognizing-fallen-angel-propaganda/

The marriage covenant is fundamentally one of protection, provision, and covering, where the wife enters under her husband’s authority and care (as the husband submits to Christ-like sacrifice, Eph. 5:25-29).

When a woman is unjustly divorced or abandoned (through no fault of her own, whether by adultery, rebellion, threats, neglect, or abandonment), the original covenant is broken unilaterally by the husband’s sin. She is no longer bound to a covenant that has been shattered. This applies even if her husband’s threats force her to choose safety for herself and/or her children in divorcing him.

This means when a wife is forced to separate/divorce due to unrepentant abuse (to herself or the children), financial destruction, threats, or other covenant-breaking sin, she is the innocent party, the victim of her husband’s rebellion against God’s design for marriage (protection, provision, love as Christ loves the church, Eph. 5:25).

Scripture relieves her of ongoing bondage (as in the principles from 1 Cor. 7:15 and the exception clauses). If she then enters a new marriage covenant with a godly man who loves and protects her: She is now fully under his headship and authority (Col. 3:18; Eph. 5:22-24; 1 Pet. 3:1-6). That new covenant becomes her rightful place of protection, provision, and honor.

The previous broken bond no longer holds her and God honors the new union as legitimate, and she is not required to live in limbo or punishment for someone else’s rebellion.

This view emphasizes God’s heart for justice and mercy: He hates divorce (Mal. 2:16), but He doesn’t abandon the vulnerable to lifelong suffering because of a covenant-breaker’s actions. The innocent wife finds refuge in a new covenant, covered and cherished as God intended marriage to be. It’s a compassionate reading that protects the oppressed while upholding the sanctity of marriage.

Shalom and Shalom.

Dr. Ramón Argila deTorres y Sandoval

While surfing the web I found a website by a woman who realized she’d erred horribly in ending her marriage. My thoughts on this are by design rather narrow, after all, Matthew 7:14 tells us that the way to life is through the narrow gate, finding it and entering therein is hard.

This woman is still hurt by her own actions ten years after she deliberately divorced her husband. She cries out, “I have never found anyone I loved nearly as much as my ex-husband.” Even though she still aches for her ex, his actions taken after the damage done to his heart demonstrates his profound sense of betrayal. He found another woman and was remarried within 6 months of the divorce; which, in itself illustrates how torn he was inside for he found another woman who showed him loving kindness and then married her. Thus the first violation of G-d’s law was her divorce, not his 2nd marriage.

Why do I phrase it this way? The answer is partly that I was married for 23 years to one woman. Her mother had passed on and she was devastated. Her sorrow began to intrude into our marriage. I had read books on how to have a good marriage, I convinced her we should to counseling (but she quit), I made so many changes to be the man she wanted I lost count. I tried in every way to save my marriage. My heart was shattered and torn. I felt like a loser no one could love and continued to feel that way for nearly 2 years afterwards. It wasn’t until I looked up to heaven and cried out, “Lord, I am tired of being alone” that I found a marvelous and beautiful, loving and kind woman who fell in love with me. That was 15 years ago and we are still very happily married, but I digress. I was writing about another couple, another woman who walked out of her marriage.

I believe (having been abandoned myself) that her husband must must have been thoroughly devastated by the divorce. This unknown woman never mentions his feelings about being divorced, except to say, almost casually that her ex is “unhappily remarried.” Then she continues to say she is still in love with her ex-husband after realizing their marriage wasn’t perfect but it was brilliant. “Perhaps one day, when his kids are grown up, we might be able to have another shot at happiness,” as if happiness is the measure of your relationship with Messiah. Thus the second instance of violating G-d’s law, whereas the first was her committing the divorce itself (while selfishly seeking “happiness.”) Yet, what does scripture tell us about divorce and remarriage. The following passage tells us that a woman who is divorced by her husband, who then goes out and remarries may not return to her first husband after the remarriage.

“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife, and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an inheritance.”

Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (NASB)

So this woman left her husband and found a new man, says it didn’t work out (she never says if they married) and now yearns to be reunited with her first husband. He, at least, is staying with his second wife because he has children and a sense of moral obligation to stay married for their sake.

I truly hope this woman who let her emotions destroy her first marriage won’t pursue what she left and lead to the destruction of her husband’s second marriage. That would be worse than the first divorce for it would be an “abomination before the LORD.” Furthermore, innocent children do not deserve to experience what she has done to herself!

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

This is a small collection of research I’ve done concerning detoxing from the graphene oxide found in the different vaccines. For a more thorough methodology go to https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinion/heres-how-to-detox-from-the-covid-spike-protein-from-the-jab-or-the-virus/

Graphene oxide (GO), a substance that is poisonous to humans, has been found in the Covid 19 “vaccines,” in the water supply, in the air we breathe through chemtrails, and is even in our food supply. GO interacts and is activated by electromagnetic frequencies (EMFs), specifically the broader range of frequencies found in 5G which can cause even more damage to our health.

The symptoms of GO poisoning and EMF radiation sickness are similar to those symptoms described as Covid. The good news is, now that it has been identified as a contaminant, there are ways to remove GO from our bodies and restore health.

This is a holistic approach of using several different methods simultaneously for the best effect, including, specific supplements to help degrade the GO in the body, and how to control EMFs in the environment to minimize GO activation.

This information comes from several sources and is based on scientific studies. Links are referenced at the bottom.

Glutathione is a substance made from the amino-acids glycine, cysteine, and glutamic acid. It is produced naturally by the liver and involved in many processes in the body, including tissue building and repair, making chemicals and proteins needed in the body, and for the immune system.  We have a natural glutathione reserve in our bodies. This is what gives us a strong immune system.

When glutathione levels are high in the body, we have no problems and our immune system functions well. But when the amount of GO in the body exceeds the amount of glutathione, it causes the collapse of the immune system and triggers a cytokine storm. The way that GO can rapidly grow to exceed glutathione in the body is by electronic excitation.  Meaning, EMF’s that bombard the graphene to oxidize it, which rapidly triggers the disease.

At the age of 65 glutathione levels fall drastically in the body. This can explain why the population most affected by Covid-19 are the elderly. Glutathione levels are also very low in people with pre-existing conditions such as diabetes, obesity, etc.  Likewise, glutathione levels are very high in infants, children and athletes. This can explain why Covid-19 has not affected these people.

GO when oxidized or activated by specific EMF frequencies overruns the body’s ability to create enough glutathione, which destroys the immune system and causes the illness.  In events of illness (such as Covid symptoms and all the “variants”) it is necessary to raise glutathione levels in the body in order to cope with the toxin (GO) that has been introduced or electrically activated.

ICU Intubated Covid Patients Healed Within Hours When Treated with Glutathione and NAC:

Example from Dr. Ricardo Delgado

“We have seen clinical trials with hundreds of patients who were in the ICU, on a respirator and intubated, practically on the verge of death. With bilateral pneumonias caused by the spread of GO and subsequent 5G radiation in the lung plaques. Well, this diffuse stain in these patients is symmetrical, which would not happen with a biological agent since it would be rather asymmetrical, as for example when there is a pneumococcal infection, right? Well, in that case a diffuse stain usually appears in one part of the lung, but not in another, not in both symmetrically. So, when treated with glutathione via direct intravenous —or even orally as well— or with N-acetylcysteine (NAC) 600 mg or higher doses, people within hours began to recover their oxygen saturation” -Dr. Ricardo Delgado   https://www.orwell.city/2021/07/NAC-glutathione.html

Magnolia Bark helps to produce glutathione, which is an antioxidant that the brain uses to help reduce free radical damage. Magnolia bark can also be effective as a nootropic is by boosting levels of serotonin and dopamine, important neurotransmitters involved with mood regulation.

N-acetylcysteine or “NAC” is a supplement that causes the body to produce glutathione, it is known as the precursor to glutathione and causes the body to secrete glutathione endogenously, just as it does when you do sports intensely. You can get NAC as a supplement or a prescription drug.

 N-acetyl cysteine (NAC) comes from the amino acid L-cysteine and is used by the body to build antioxidants. Antioxidants are vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients that protect and repair cells from damage.

Zinc in combination with NAC are essential antioxidants used to degrade GO. Dr. Ricardo Delgado states that with these two antioxidants he has personally helped people affected by magnetism after inoculation.  This is in people with two doses of Pfizer who have become magnetic and after these supplements they no longer have this symptom.

Other supplements that can be taken to assist in the removal of GO are:

Vitamin C Researchers have discovered that vitamin C may help increase glutathione levels by attacking free radicals first, thereby sparing glutathione. 500–1,000 mg of vitamin C daily.

Selenium 55 mcg; At ground zero, China, the role of selenium in various provinces has helped determine that selenium may help in aiding general cardiac health. A role for selenium may also help explain phenomena such as the recently reported blood clotting in COVID-19, because selenium is known to have an anti-clotting effect. (7)

Foods Naturally Rich in Glutathione

The human body produces glutathione, but there are also dietary sources. Spinach, avocados, asparagus and okra are some of the richest dietary sources may help decrease oxidative stress.  Whey protein is a good source of cysteine, which helps maintain adequate glutathione production.

Milk Thistle: greens, seeds, and root can all be eaten separately as well. All are known to be bitter. The roots can be boiled or roasted similarly to carrots. You can peel the stems and cook them as you would asparagus. Overnight soaking is a good idea when preparing the stems as this will help to remove some of the bitterness. You can use the leaves like spinach both in cooked dishes and in salads. You can also make tea with milk thistle leaves, which one of the main ways to consume it for its medicinal benefits. You can use milk thistle seeds to replace coffee by roasting them, or you can eat them raw. Experts recommend that you let the plant dry for at least a week before trying to harvest the seeds.

Sulfur is important for producing glutathione. Sulfur is found in proteins such as beef, fish and poultry, as well as allium and cruciferous vegetables: garlic, shallots and onions, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, kale, watercress and mustard greens.

Turmeric (found in curry) may be used as turmeric extract vice the spice, but the spice is readily available in grocery stores. Additionally, a chronic lack of sleep may decrease glutathione levels. Recent research shows that exercise is also helpful in maintaining or increasing antioxidant levels, especially glutathione.

Citations:

1. https://rightsfreedoms.wordpress.com/2021/12/21/detoxification-protocol-against-graphene-oxide-and-body-magnetism/

2. https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements-milk-thistle/art-20362885 Liver and stomach protection

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17852500/ antioxidant

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8250405/ impedes the entry of the SARS virus

3. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8573830/

4. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8421583/ no side effects or toxicity

5. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19381356/  physiologically effective antioxidative properties and expressing health-promoting characteristics

6. Reg’Activ: A Probiotic Strain that Makes Antioxidants Lactobacillus fermentum ME-3.

7. https://news.uncg.edu/research-link-covid-19-selenium/

Human events continue to unfold today as they did when the patriarchs were alive. We are born, grow up, grow old, marry, and have children and life is now as it was then. There are failures and successes. Marriages and divorce. The key factor appears to be there are many people who have no respect for the Word of El! I say this not about unbelievers, but of believers who randomly pick through the bible (even if they don’t read it consistently) to justify what they already believe rather than read and understand through prayer and study.

They want to believe the law and the prophets are obsolete as if they now have some divine permission to ignore the Old Testament anyway because… Jesus. That is because parts of the bible do not fit with their philosophy of religion they are asking, “Has G-d really said…?” (Genesis 3). They deny the truth of the word He says is set-apart, or holy. Because G-d ties his holiness to His law; because He is forever, His law is forever.

The New International Version translation of 1st Timothy 4 records these words,

“But the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith, cleaving to deceiving spirits and teachings of demons, in lying speakers in hypocrisy, being seared in their own conscience, forbidding to marry, saying to abstain from foods, which God created for partaking with thanksgiving by the believers and those knowing the truth.”

The reference to forbidding marriage and then to avoiding certain foods is easily clarified with the understanding that scripture interprets scripture. In reverse order knowing that El has previously defined what is food and what is not food (Leviticus), we can easily understand this is not about permission to eat unclean things as if the unclean things have magically become food. Thus, when the bible refers to food, it means clean things are food, and not unclean things. Simply put; food is what God has already defined as food.

As to the former reference to forbidding of marriage, even though there is seeming unanimity among early commentators, namely that papists forbade marriage, this view cannot be true given the direct reference to the Catholic church, specifically to papists (of the pope). This is true because the Catholic church did not exist when 1^st Timothy was written, notwithstanding Catholic false teachings.

It is well known that for 280 years after Yeshua’s resurrection and ascension his talmidim (believers or followers) were persecuted, tortured and martyred by the Roman Empire. Thus, since forbidding marriage is not a reference to Catholicism it is most certainly a reference to early Gnostic cults desiring control and power; whom the author of Timothy would certainly condemn for their errant views. There is no lack of those whose mindset is the same today.

These descendants of Gnostic thought see emotionally vulnerable people whose spouse has walked away from their marriage, perhaps into an affair, but most certainly into adultery (scripture holds that to divorce an innocent spouse is adultery) and say, “You have been divorced and you cannot remarry.” They embody the old saw that a Puritan is a person who senses that “someone, somewhere is having fun;” and they cannot abide that thought.

They readily quote Malachi 2:16, “ ‘For I hate divorce,’ says the LORD, the God of Israel. ‘He who divorces his wife covers his garment with violence,’ says the LORD of Hosts. So, guard yourselves in your spirit and do not break faith,” but will deny Deuteronomy 4:1-4 because it does not fit their emotionally charged agenda.

The Old Testament law concerning divorce, though seemingly quite clear, recorded in Deuteronomy 24:1 is not yet without little difficulty because modern interpretation adds what is not there. This changes the interpretation of the verses. Two versions change the apparent meaning; the King James and Revised Version.

The KJV has written, “then let him write a bill,” and so on, while the Revised Version (British and American) records, “that he shall write,” etc. This is not true of the Hebrew original having neither “then” nor “that,” but the conjunction “and” tying together the halves of verse 1. It says (paraphrase) “he has found something unclean (morally) in her AND he writes her a bill of divorce…” and nothing more. Yet, it seems Moses’ aim to codify divorce was not to make a terrible event easier, it was to protect the woman from an ancient form of the modern “No-fault divorce.”

Understanding Moses’ hearts intention (under inspiration of the Ruach) to add some measure of protection for a wife, he continues on stating what is read in verses 3 and 4; the prohibition of a woman thus divorced. After a perfunctory divorce a woman shall NOT go back to her former husband under any circumstances. Depending on the version you read, G-d hates this because He finds it detestable, or an abomination. Nevertheless, this verse clearly states no remarriage by divorcing a second spouse to go back to a former spouse.

Additionally, the Old Testament through the law tells us (as Israel believed) that certain acts were sin. Though this continues to be true, for example; stealing, mayhem, murder, Yeshua stated, “It is not the thing entering into the mouth that defiles the man, but the thing coming forth out of the mouth, this defiles the man,” and “For out of the heart come forth reasonings, evil things, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, lies, blasphemies.” (Matthew 15). It is the intention to divorce a spouse that is adultery, not the remarriage. Nor does sexual relations within that subsequent marriage form the basis for adultery. The adultery begins in the heart.

The prophet Jeremiah wrote, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?” (17:9) – The spirit of G-d is essentially saying only G-d can know a human heart. Thus, we understand that adultery is a heart issue, which if continued into fornication or divorce only magnifies the sin already present in the heart. Thus, adultery is the thought/sin taken root and acted upon, where fornication is sexual relations outside of a lawful marriage. Both are equally egregious in G-d’s sight.

If your spouse wasn’t in love anymore and left, if they found someone else, or if they “fell from grace” and let their sins overwhelm them; no matter what reason that you’ve found yourself newly single there are many options – contrary to what modern Gnostics claim. Certainly of these is the option is to stand and believe that G-d changes hearts and can restore your marriage. But this is by no means the only option. That depends upon the heart.

And understand this, because we are in need of a Savior it makes no sense to believe that remarriage after divorce is a salvation issue as these Gnostics (also claim). He died ONCE for all to save us from the penalty the Law invoked after sin. He died to set us free. Through the Law He tells us what is right and what to do, but through the Son, He saves us from the Law of Sin and Death.

I hope by now you understand that the motivations of the heart are what define sin and that because of human fallen nature it is impossible to not sin. Because of His propitiatory death on the cross, we are saved from the penalty of the Law. Though sin still remains while we are in the flesh because of His sacrifice we have His forgiveness. Think of it this way; those random thoughts that seem to erupt from nowhere, or that momentary uninvited thought about another person is the reason we need a Savior. We are unable to redeem ourselves and walk in righteousness as He did. And it is His sacrifice that allows us to approach the throne of G-d and ask for help avoiding sin and walk in victory.

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

 Write it on your heart
 that every day is the best day in the year.
 He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
 who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.
 Finish every day and be done with it.
 You have done what you could.
 Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
 Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
 begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
 to be cumbered with your old nonsense. 
 This new day is too dear,
 with its hopes and invitations,
 to waste a moment on the yesterdays.”
  
 Ralph Waldo Emerson  

Have you ever had an hour, or a day, even a week in trying times that your heart didn’t hurt? Have you ever wondered why you’ve been thrown into standing for your marriage? Your heart? Your life?

Trusting is the key to being able to have that time. The bible records this saying, “Throw all your cares on Him for he cares for you.” As good as that sounds, it depends on the level of mental and spiritual conditioning you have, or have exercised. I admit I am guilty of allowing extraneous thoughts to slide into my mental flow and disrupt my peace, especially when I relax and believe family is family, where everyone cares for each other. Let me explain.

I know a man, who was involved in an accident years ago which left him with three broken ribs, bleeding kidneys and a hematoma in his right buttock the size of an adult fist, tears across his knees, and trauma to his mid/lower back. While he lay supine with his knees drawn up, he felt the Spirit of the L-rd manifest. The heat and pain, the noise and light all faded away. He said he became the best version of himself possible as the L-rd’s spirit took charge. Everything he felt, thought, spoke… everything was of the L-rd, yet he remained himself. To this very day he says that all fear of death, of loss, of pain from that accident fades when he remembers the glory of being transformed, even if for a moment, to more than he was in human terms by the Holy Spirit.

In this trauma he came away with a deeper, clearer sense of how the Holy Spirit works in human beings. No more fear of death, no more fear of being out-of-control. No more fears of being cheated on, or of separation or divorce. Yet, there are others, whose experience coming out of trauma or sin (adultery, sexual sins, separation or divorce) does not leave them with this… glory. These are those whose lifestyle is dependent upon emotional reasoning, on fear and loss and a stubborn determination to hold onto those emotions. They do so because emotional control is all they know, even as it fails them, time after time. Almost all people have some difficulty admitting to errors, to apologizing for those errors in judgement or lapses in decorum to other people; yet this is beyond that!

While some have no trouble admitting to and owning their mistakes because they are determined to make things improve, if not the situation or confrontation with another, then to improve themselves. These are the people everyone likes, but there are others. These people are those who ‘sort of’ apologize, sort of own their errors. If they are angry and call you a name (racist, bigoted, sexist, cheater, adulterer – projecting their sins/failures on you) they may say, “I am sorry your feelings are hurt, but if only you wouldn’t say/do those things,” meaning their ‘sort of’ apology is more about your fault than admitting theirs.

You may notice that the ‘sort of’ apology never admits to any fault except in others. It is as if to say, “You were hurt by that because you don’t understand how that is (racist, bigoted, sexist, cheating, adultery),” and in darker undertones how you were to blame! The people who are unable to admit to their own part in any argument or divorce action are unable to see they had anything to do with, projecting what they do onto others. And a ‘sort of’ apology admits to no fault through humility and repentance.

They are unable to see that arguments and marriages have two participants within which both share. And because they find it so unimaginably horrible to accept their error, a defense mechanism honed over years, causes them to literally distort their perceptions (to see things as they want them to be rather than as they are). This is why they can’t accept blame, or to share blame when there is mutual error, seeking rather to project their faults onto others. They remain unable to do so as long as they hold onto the past (defense mechanism or sin).

People who do this are in pain and in need of prayer, and forgiveness (even if they have trouble accepting it because this means they share blame). They have such a weakened sense of self, a fragile psyche that to admit they were in error threatens their already brittle ego. It makes apologizing impossible or nearly so. Hence the ‘sort of’ apology blaming the victim of their anger, or embarrassment, or pain, or for their affairs (as if you were the cause). The nature of the threat to their psychological health remains insurmountable until they learn to accept themselves as they are and forgive themselves. Indeed, until then they remain entangled until they learn to accept they can go to G-d ‘just as they are’ for forgiveness , restoration and healing.

So, yes, they may cry real tears during a confrontation – as if they feel the pain or shared blame for unpleasant events which engendered the disruption. And you may see what appears to be introspection or realization; you may also believe they are considering your point of view or beginning to see and accept their part in events. Yet the corona of distortion they create to preserve their ego literally warps reality to make it less painful, less of a threat. This process ultimately transforms what they fear or have retreated into becoming something it never was. This is the crux of their denial of (perceived) reality into a non-threatening mental safe space.¹ This retreat from or conversion of reality into something else explains the ‘sort of’ apology, if they make one at all. To quote from the Matrix –

You have to understand. Most people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured², so hopelessly dependent on the system that they will fight to protect it.

— Morpheus, The Matrix

The very thought that they may be in part responsible for any unpleasantness (name calling, blame shifting, or divorce) is so powerful they will immediately become angry and defend their frangible ego.  Do not make the mistake of believing their adamant refusal to back down is a sign of strength or of determined character. Their inability to humble themselves, to feel sorrow and repent for their words or actions is the polar opposite of humility and repentance. And only G-d can change a broken heart. Only G-d can forgive and restore!

In the words of a popular song, “Give them all to Jesus. Shattered dreams, Wounded hearts, Broken toys.” Give your prodigal to Jesus!

I will also sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean. I will cleanse you from all your impurities and all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will remove your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes and to carefully observe My ordinances.…

Ezekiel 36:25 -27

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

Edited: August 22, 2020

¹ There is a video narrated by a black professor (specialist in black history) explaining the history of the Democrat party. Nothing she said was untrue, nothing distorted – just the unvarnished historical facts. A family member, who believes the Democrat’s lie that the party’s switched, after viewing the video histrionically exclaimed, “I can’t believe it! She literally said everything backwards!”

² Inured: in•ure ĭn-yoo͝r′ – transitive verb “To habituate to something undesirable, especially by prolonged subjection; accustom.”

I used to know a woman a believer in the L-rd, (I have to wonder how much difference there is in the quality of faith) who related a story to me about a man whose wife sued him for divorce. While they were separated he would drive by her house calling out to G-d and crying, “L-rd save my marriage.”  When the divorce was granted he stopped praying and let go. She said that sometimes G-d wants divorce because He is working in an individual’s heart. She left out a great deal in that short story.

What she left out was that the word for echad is one that means “unified” but more, it implies a bond that is like glue, or better, welded where the joining is body, soul, spirit. One. The same word is used to speak of G-d as one, echad. For instance, the Word [Mattityahu (Matt) 19] speaks volumes, but two things of the many it discusses stand out; an unbeliever may leave and the believer is not bound (enslaved), and when two believers marry – DO NOT divorce; a command of G-d.

We All Fail and Are Weak

The things is do we fail and are weak and therefore sin, or do we live in deliberate sin and fail because we choose to do so. There are distinct differences in these two positions. The saint of G-d may fail because he/she is weak, but that is different than outright rebellious celebration of sin. We are the righteousness of Maschiach, clean before a Holy G-d. And the prayers of a righteous man (woman) are mighty. Being in Yeshua is win/win.

So when she told the story she didn’t say is this an unbelieving wife? If she was a believer, was he? If both were and he stopped praying then he was sinning [Yakov (James) 4:17]. Lies can come out of just not saying enough.

When is Sin Only Weakness

If a believer divorces a believer, the follow up with Matthew 19 is to remain single and do not remarry, or reconcile. Why would a believer choose what one could only assume is the lesser of two evils, so to speak. It is as they say, “I choose to divorce and stay unmarried.” But why? What is greater than the fear of the L-rd? What fear drives a believer to divorce in the clear light of the command to not divorce?

What if he or she is so wrapped up in their own issues which end up hurting the marriage? What if they feel compelled to divorce to either, stay away from the pain, or keep their pain away from their spouse? Both are very real issues. For the first I’d say, why did you NOT involve your spouse or engage them enough to let them into your private world?

For instance; if you have health issues, did they go with you to counseling or to the doctor? Did you invite them and they refused? In the second instance, were they divorcing to save their spouse what they thought, perhaps, was years of their own agony as they battled either mental or physical illness? I say invite them in and find out what they do. If this drives them to divorce you (as perhaps you feared) it is a shame on them and not you.

When Two Walk Together

If they remain the scripture says in Ephesians 4 two can keep each other warm, and a cord of three strands is not easily broken. Don’t divorce someone because you are trying to spare them pain. They married you for better or for worse. Evidence proves that after 5 years people who stick to their marriage VASTLY improve compared to those who divorce and remarry, and are far happier and rate their marriage as high quality compared to those who take their baggage in divorce.

In marriages where they do nothing but stubbornly cling to each other, five years later their marriage is better than those who divorce and remarry. In marriages of faith where they go to counseling religiously (pun intended), they are closer and happier together than those who divorce and either remain single or remarry. The common factor is staying together, and it doesn’t matter if they are believers or non-believer, of the faith or pagan. Staying together and relying on each other is the key, and I have to believe, because G-d designed marriage (and hates divorce) He is in all marriages and will bless them as they struggle to remain married.

My goal is to remain, to accept the struggles of life and love my spouse with all of my being; body, soul and spirit. That involves struggle, and certainly a great deal of grace, forgiveness, respect and love. If your spouse is not worth the effort of staying married (when G-d says they are) then reconsider why you married them, who changed? And if you decide on divorce, then was that change what G-d truly wants?

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

Edited: June 28, 2020

It occurs to me that the focus of this website is too narrow. Marriage. Life and our relationships are more than just marriage. Singles have a relationship with G0d. Children have a relationship with G0d. Widows and widowers have a relationship with G0d. Did I leave anyone out? Thus expanding this site to include singles means letting ALL who come here and read, that marriage is G-d’s design for human beings. BUT having said that, not all of us have to be married.

While I will always value the topic of marriage, since G-d laid it on my heart, I may occasionally to expand these pages to deal with subjects related to our relationship with Abba Father, through the Spirit and in Yeshua haMaschiach both as if to singles, where it applies, and especially to those married.

My belief is the people prone to believe that G-d, the Holy Spirit, or a dream of a loved one (alive or dead) have fragile ego’s and a fragile psyche and will go to any length to stop the pain of sin, any length except obedience. In this case, the pain is G-d’s Spirit convicting them of sin. The same may be said of singles; they too may fall for this deceptive spirit and take actions not in accordance with the Word.

G0d’s promises are IF/THEN. IF you follow His ways, THEN He rewards you. IF you don’t follow His ways, tTHEN He allows things in your life that may hurt. Yet even this is His hand of discipline reaching out to you. My wife came home. I had nothing to do with it. I had to stop praying she would come home and had to pray for her safety, welfare, for blessings on her. I had to give up on restoration and give in to a Holy G0d!

This is for all who believe!

Shalom

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

Edited: June 28, 2020

Love is not something you experience like feelings that come and go, love is a commitment, a firmness of purpose, a decision you make. True love unites, true love binds, you are echad (welded soul to soul) with another person in sickness and health; until death do you part.  Love is an action word, love is a verb, love is a challenge that you demonstrate day by day.

Love is not a feeling precisely because feelings are ephemeral and as intransigent as the wind.  To define love as a feeling is to deny the reality of the commitment, the covenant relationship you promised to honor for life. The reality is that love is not only a decision, a firmness of purpose, but true love is a garden, maturing with time, needing constant care and watering. The responsibility to tend the garden is yours and your spouses through a lifelong commitment.

True Love and Faith

True love is like true faith in the Father, without works, it dies. True faith exists not because of feelings or emotions, but is a reality that exists unseen and unfeeling, it just is. The commitment to true faith and true love exists whether your feelings or emotions agree; the covenant of marriage means you must love this person you have committed to for life. In this way, being echad, you resolve to fulfill your purpose because you are as one before the L-rd.

Like the seasons we use to track the passage of time, true love also tracks over time. The difference is that true love does not change or waiver, just as true faith does not change or waiver. What changes there are come with physical age, and health, and in various other life circumstances, but the true love underlying the relationship remains, a firm resolve to love for life. True love is like the steel structure of a skyscraper, bearing the weight of the changing seasons of life.

Marriage and Prayer

An integrally important part of marriage is to pray for one another. The following prayer is only a template to help you understand the reality of your commitment to another person in love and in marriage. You may customize this prayer to suit your life’s purposes.

Blessed are You L0RD our G-d, King of the universe, who created all things for your glory and who created male and female in Your image and in Your likeness.  I pray that my commitment to true love for my husband/wife will weather the seasons of life’s changes. I willingly bind myself to my husband/wife to honor You L-rd, to bring glory to the Father of Light in whom there is no shadow of change nor darkness.

Let the glorious light of Maschiach be the witness to my true love commitment to my husband/wife for life. Grant me the supernatural ability to show true love to my husband/wife just as you demonstrated your commitment to obey the Father through your life, death and resurrection. I glorify you L-rd in my marriage as I glorify you in my life. Father I ask you in the name of Yeshua haMaschiach (Jesus Christ) to direct my feelings and emotions in support of my marriage, to guide my heart into your true love for my husband/wife.

All glory, honor and praise is yours oh L-rd. In You we are one, welded together body and soul for life. By faith and for your purposes our marriage will continually conform to the image of Your Son, whose blood was spilled to redeem us. By faith we will grow in true love and commitment one to the other for life. By faith we support and challenge one another to walk in Your ways, oh L-rd. By faith we shall remain echad so long as we both do breathe.

I make this commitment without reservation to support, defend, and honor my husband/wife before all others for life – in the name of your son, Yeshua haMaschiach, I pray. Amen.

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

Resources:   

http://spiritualgiftstoday.com/divorce-god-can-save-your-marriage/

http://www.hebrew4christians.com/Blessings/Special_Events/Wedding_Blessings/wedding_blessings.html

Edited: June 28, 2020

Though a righteous man falls seven times, he will get up, but the wicked will stumble into ruin. Mishle (Proverbs) 24:16

Have you ever had a relationship in which you think too much is at stake to make a mistake? There are mistakes and there are mistakes. In the first case there are mistakes made because of the nature of the person. Armando Ramos, of the BTG Movement*, holds there is a difference between habitual sin and sin because of weakness. In the first instance the sin is committed habitually by those who do not care what happens and don’t care if they sin against the L-rd, and in the second instance, flawed every day people who desperately want to please the L-rd and do things right, fail through weaknesses, and sin. Ramos notes that sin of the believer is the second sort.

Target Practice

The word sin means to miss the mark, failure to achieve the target. The failure is a sin, but the good news is, Maschiach paid the penalty for our weaknesses and sin. We are forgiven. We are clean. We are pure.  Don’t get hung up on perfection and doing everything 100 per cent right. No single human being is that exacting in execution. Famed investor Warren Buffet said, “I would never get too hung up on mistakes. I know a lot of people who really agonize over them, it just isn’t worth it. Tomorrow’s another day, just go on to the next thing.”

If you apply this principle, it doesn’t mean you don’t care for the consequences of a mistake or of sin, it means that we’ve been forgiven, and heed the advice of Shlomo (Solomon), wisest man to ever live, “as a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool returns to his folly.” Learn from the mistake and move on. Then forget the failure, don’t relive it, don’t clutch the failure as a badge of honor for all to see.  Don’t let that failure define you, just move on, do something new with what you learned.

Success

Gary Vaynerchuk (Entrepreneur, New York Times bestselling author, and internet personality) was asked about his success, “How much of that is luck vs preparation. What do you do when you make a mistake?” His answer is revealing, “I did everything wrong, It’s just that I can’t recall. I am moving on to the next thing. Dwelling on what you f—-d up on is the quickest way for the next thing not to work.”

The key point to understand is you are going to make mistakes. Some will be small mistakes, and some will be larger. In order to grow and mature, learn from your mistake, don’t repeat the same mistake. These men, speaking as businessmen and about business success related failure as something to learn from, not relive. Vaynerchuk added, “If you’re worried about your own mistakes you’ve already lost.”

Mistakes and Marriage

Research has demonstrated that there are two responses to mistakes. One is to learn from it and move on, and the other is a combination of different factors rolled into one. The combination is found in people who do not attempt to learn from their mistake and make it over and over again, people who are so distraught over their failure they never get to Vaynerchuk’ s “next thing, and people who are so intolerant of the mistakes of others they condemn them. All of these practices add insult to injury.

Adding these separate secondary factors to marriage is a recipe for disaster. Why don’t some spouses seem to learn from their mistakes? One obvious answer is they were never told. My first wife would become upset over something I’d done and not tell me, not aloud. I would find out when she wouldn’t speak to me, or would say something back to me (as if I’d deliberately sinned against her) starting an argument as I strove to find out what I ‘d done and she refused to tell me. Had she simply told me what I did, I would have gladly asked for help in avoiding the behavior for her benefit. And my then wife had a habit of rehashing failure in her mind and of assuming I knew my mistake, my sin.

By not telling me I fell into a pattern of making the same mistakes over and over. Am I exonerating myself? No. Simply put, I was and am dedicated enough that when I find out I screwed up I want a chance to fix it, to make things right. Finally, though my ex-spouse was not one to hold on for too very long to past mistakes, her mother was a champion of being wounded. Years after we were married my mother-in-law still held a grudge for the way we were married. She had wanted a society wedding with the huge cake, huge dress, huge everything and we denied her that by eloping. She was offended and unforgiving and made sure we knew it 15 years later, even to driving her daughter to despair.

Hope

The best way to move through life is in the mind of Yeshua. If your spouse makes a mistake, don’t save them up for a rainy day and unload on him or her. Practice forgiveness, practice mercy, and practice love.

Peter asked Yeshua how many times should a brother be forgiven?

²¹ Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

²² Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.^[a]

Essentially that means every time they repent, forgive and move on. An old parable goes something like this (and is good advice for marriage), “don’t sweat the small stuff, and they’re all small stuff.”

Are you sweating the small stuff in your marriage?

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres y Sandoval

* BTG Movement has been shut down

Edited: June 28, 2020

Edited: June 25, 2020