On Marriage and Faith

 

When Lazarus died, Yeshua was deliberately late arriving. The women were not upset with the L-rd (though they were grieving), but said that Lazarus would rise in the resurrection. And when Yeshua said he would live, they misunderstood. What good would that sort of resurrection be in the olam habba when it was to show G-d’s glory in the present life? In much the same way marriage restoration is about showing G-d’s glory.

Marriage has to be restored in the present life, as Lazarus was restored to his present life, or it is not a miracle. Yes, if one remains faithful to a prodigal spouse, there will be a reward in the hereafter, but there is no marriage in heaven.  So if when Yeshua called Lazarus out and he remained dead, it would not have glorified G-d, nor been resurrection in a way that the weeping women said he would be restored (raised to life) in heaven. So marriage has to be restored in the land of the living.

But if a spouse in persistent disobedience refuses to listen to the Ruach HaKodesh (Holy Spirit of G-d) what then? Lazarus could not resist the call of G-d, but wayward spouses do so persistently and find excuses in all manner to justify disobedience.

Yeshua G-d said, “if you love me obey my commands.” Does one love Him and yet not obey?

15 If you love me, you will keep my commands; 16 and I will ask the Father, and he will give you another comforting Counselor like me, the Spirit of Truth, to be with you forever. 17 The world cannot receive him, because it neither sees nor knows him. You know him, because he is staying with you and will be united with you. 18 I will not leave you orphans — I am coming to you. 19 In just a little while, the world will no longer see me; but you will see me. Because I live, you too will live. 20 When that day comes, you will know that I am united with my Father, and you with me, and I with you. 21 Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me, and the one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and reveal myself to him.” Yochanan14: 15-21 (Emphasis added)

 

His law. His mitzvot. The commands or words of G-d. Obedience. We obey because we love Him. What is the corollary? To not obey demonstrates that we do NOT love. If we do not love then are we children of G-d? It does not appear to be so. Even the prodigal son came to his senses and returned to his Father in repentance. To persistently live in the lifestyle of disobedience is to demonstrate that we do not love G-d, nor are we children of the Most High.

Some commands are conditional, that is, they depend on the condition in which one finds their life. In marriage humans are commanded to remain married for life, though we do not have to marry, thus that is the condition. It is in Beresheit (Genesis) 2:24-25 that Yeshua [Mattityahu (Matt) 19:4-6] tells us that the only end to marriage is through death. Therefore the command is to remain married for a lifetime.

Though Rav Shaul (Paul) writes that divorced believers must remain single or reconcile, many take this as permission to divorce, willfully ignoring the greater command in the meaning of the Word – DO NOT DIVORCE. Those who do so respond (as if saying in their actions), “I separated from my spouse, but I remain single.”

In Mattityahu (Matt) 19, Yeshua continued to confound the P’rushim (Pharisees) when He explained that divorce for any other reason than adultery becomes adultery. So, abandoning a spouse who has not committed adultery makes one an adulterer.

Other verses that speak to the permanence of marriage;

Beresheit 2:18

Mishlei (Proverbs) 5:18-19 18:22

Ephesians 4:31-32-25

Kohelet (Ecclesiastes) 4:9-11

Kehilla in Rome (Romans) 7:2

Kehilla in Corinth Alef (1 Corinthians) 7:39

Another explanation is found on the Antidowry website;

Society and civil law may then grant them a “divorce” (not for fornication) and they may “marry” again. Society and civil law then views them as free from their first marriage and entered into a second one, and the Bible calls this “divorced” (“put away”) and “married” again. But though God uses these terms as society does, He does not recognize the divorce as making a valid end to the covenant commitment that He recognized in the first marriage. God still considers them “bound” or “joined” or held accountable for the commitment of the first marriage.

This explains why, if a woman divorces her husband, she still has no right to remarry. She may get divorced in the eyes of civil law, and God calls it “divorce” and says she is now “unmarried.” But that does not free her from her bond or covenant obligation to her first husband. Since she is still bound to her first marriage covenant, her only choice then is to be reconciled to her husband (the one God recognizes) or else remain unmarried (all italics added).

Though the emphasis here is on divorce from a first husband (which is incorrect) the primary issue is separation from a believing husband. Thus the above quote paints the image of one divorced ‘in the eyes of society’ in which individuals are considered by that social structure as free to remarry, something not in the Word.

The world and compromised believers take this to be true – that one is free to remarry after an un-scriptural divorce, when G-d’s word says the opposite. And if one were to live persistently in disobedience, to refuse to reconcile to a lawful spouse, what is that?

Though one may understand that no fault divorce (NFD) is so well accepted by the pagan world, it is difficult to understand how those who say they are of the fellowship of light would also accept divorce so easily. In fact, the Catholic faith has so many rules about marriage and impediments to marriage that their stand on the indissoluble nature of marriage is rendered false, in much the same manner as those who believe Rav Shaul taught it’s okay to divorce ‘as long as I don’t remarry.’

What rule is this that is so bent? Any rule or law written by human beings no matter who they are, or for which purpose (being other than that which G-d condones). 1 Yochanan (John) writes of this spirit and calls it anti-Messiah saying they went out from us because they were not of us (2:19). So I ask; would those who live in persistent disobedience to the mitzvot of G-d be children of G-d? It would appear not. Rav Shaul writes;

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

Yet, Rav Shaul says this is his command, not the L-rds. The L-rd himself said, “Because this people draw near with their words and honor Me with their lip service, but they remove their hearts far from Me, and their reverence for Me consists of tradition learned by rote,” (Yesha’yahu/Isaiah 29:13). And in Mattityahu 15:9, Yeshua G-d says, “It is no use for them to worship me, because they teach human rules as though they were my laws!”

Thus this is clear, when two believers marry there is no permission nor allowance for divorce. Yet, if they do, they must remain unmarried. Yet, what of a believer to an unbeliever? Rav Shaul says the unbeliever is sanctified (not saved) by the marriage to a believer. If he/she leaves the marriage the believer is not bound, hence free.  Yet, many would choose to stay unmarried and seek through prayer and a changed life.

What is clear in all this is that marriage is a covenant and one must not seek to dissolve that covenant. Though many would disagree, second marriages become a covenant as well. Luck holds that Rav Shaul (Paul), “…tells them that to divorce without grounds is improper, and that if they have done so they are not to strike a second covenant but to seek reconciliation with their (former) spouse.”

In other words, a second covenant is recognized. Why else would G-d command “4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his isha, after that she is hutamma’ah (defiled); for that is to’evah (abomination) before Hashem; and thou shalt not cause ha’aretz to sin, which Hashem Eloheicha giveth thee for a nachalah.” Devarim (Deut) 24:4 Orthodox Jewish Bible (OJB).

Remarriage after being divorced by an unbeliever is not prohibited in the word. Those who argue that it is are simply distorting scripture for their own agenda.

Dr. Ramón Argila de Torres Sandoval

 

  1. https://bible.org/seriespage/9-teachings-paul-divorce-part-1

 

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